I have been in relationship with a great guy for more than 3 years. He is truly nice, kind, helpful and friendly, not just to me but to everyone. I like all of his friends so I am not worried when he takes care of them or being close with his female friends at all... except for one lady. She is absolutely nice, pretty, girly and very compatible with him. She just came to our life last year and since then I have never felt secure in our relationship anymore.
I know this is jealousy and insecurity issues from my side. I think the root of it is...maybe I don’t trust him enough. I know he loves me and he has been a great lover the whole time but I have to admit that I can't say that he will never fall in love with this particular lady. I have been depressed about this. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable with his friendship with her but there is nothing he can help. I understand him and I love him. I don’t expect him to change his actions about her because it's his nature to be helpful and nice to friends including her. He does not do anything wrong by having a new nice attractive close female friend.
I feel guilty that I can't trust him on his friendship with this lady. It hurts me every time seeing him seems to care and enjoy spending time with her (hangout/work/text).
I wish I could convince myself and believe that he just likes her as friend only and he will never be falling in love with her. I wish I coud have trusted him about her. I want to work on my own feeling and attitude but I don’t know how I can generate "trust" in him about her by myself only without having him changing anything for this...
How to build the trust in your lover
I know this is jealousy and insecurity issues from my side. I think the root of it is...maybe I don’t trust him enough. I know he loves me and he has been a great lover the whole time but I have to admit that I can't say that he will never fall in love with this particular lady. I have been depressed about this. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable with his friendship with her but there is nothing he can help. I understand him and I love him. I don’t expect him to change his actions about her because it's his nature to be helpful and nice to friends including her. He does not do anything wrong by having a new nice attractive close female friend.
I feel guilty that I can't trust him on his friendship with this lady. It hurts me every time seeing him seems to care and enjoy spending time with her (hangout/work/text).
I wish I could convince myself and believe that he just likes her as friend only and he will never be falling in love with her. I wish I coud have trusted him about her. I want to work on my own feeling and attitude but I don’t know how I can generate "trust" in him about her by myself only without having him changing anything for this...